Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to
hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath: --James 1:19(KJV)
Children, employees, Apprentice, would you like to cope more
effectively with your parents’ or your boss rules and correction? If so, all
you need to do is to improve your communication skills. And how may you do
that?
The first step is to listen. Rather than being quick to
justify yourself, and also, always try to control your emotions and absorb what
your parents or boss have to say. Focus on what is said, not on how it is
delivered. Then, rephrase on their comments in your own words and respectfully
repeat their remarks back to them. Your doing so will reassure them that you
heard what they said.
What if you want to give an explanation for your speech or
actions? In most cases, it is wise to ‘keep your lips in check’ until after you
have complied with your their wishes.(Prov.10:19) Once they see that you have
listened to them, they will be far more inclined to listen to you. Such a
mature approach proves that you are being guided by God’s Word.