A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.Proverbs. 15:1
Aways Pray for God’s help to rid your heart of hurtful feelings. Let God’s spirit transform your mind and heart to conform to his will. All you need to do is to take practical steps. If you find yourself in a tense situation and you sense anger building inside you, it may help to leave the scene, thus always giving your emotions time to settle. (Prov. 17:14) If the one with whom you are speaking starts to get angry, make an
extra effort to speak graciously. Making an aggressive remark would add fuel to the fire even if it is delivered in a gentle voice. So when a situation tries your self-control, be “slow about speaking, slow about wrath.” Pray for God’s spirit to help you to say good things, not bad.